When Vanity Fair Turns into a Reality Show

6 Feb

Dear bloggers,

The post you are reading is inspired by a documentary I watched in my Media Law and Ethics class a couple of days ago.

“Killing Us Softly 4” examined how advertising and fashion have distorted the ideals of femininity, causing sexism, eating disorders, and gender violence. It left me with mixed feelings, anxiety and resentment prevailing. Since when has fashion become a tool to suppress, rather than to express a person’s individuality?

There is a very thin line between veneration and addiction when it comes to fashion, and, since I am writing a blog on clothing and style, I want to make the clear statement what I am not writing about and why.


vic·tim, noun, \ˈvik-təm\ –  one that is acted on and usually adversely affected by a force or agent

fash·ion, noun,  [fash-uhn]  – a prevailing custom or style of dress, etiquette, socializing, etc.

A fashion victim is a person, who is adversely affected by the force of prevailing custom of dress, etiquette, and, most of all, style of living.

As much as I would like to think of myself as a discoverer of the illness of modern society that fashion has become for many people, I have to say that there is nothing new under the sun. Vanity has been reigning over society for a long, long time, depriving us from what really matters – to feel good in your own skin.



Boryana, being her glamorous self.

For this week’s post I met with a friend of mine – Boryana Kaisheva. She is a sophomore in AUBG, and she comes from the beautiful city of Plovdiv, Bulgaria. I decided to talk with her not only because of her charming smile and sensitive personality, but also because of her experience on people with obsessions. Last semester she created a blog called “Living with an Addict”, where she examined the different obsessions people have, and how they affect the people around them.

 “When I hear the word fashion, I picture the models from Fashion TV, wearing freaky clothes and having freaky hairstyles.”

For Boryana, many people today confuse fashion with style. Fashion shows offer a more artistic and abstract look at the new trends, than literally setting their wild models as must-haves. The misunderstanding of what you should adopt from the catwalk or the fashion magazines, and what you should regard as theatrical dressing-ups, often leads to catastrophic outcomes in real life.

As a true traveler, Boryana has visited many countries, among which Latvia, Czech Republic, England, and the United States. What she noticed, is that there is also a cultural aspect that affects the way people dress.

Boryana in Prague, Czech Republic

Boryana in Prague, Czech Republic

“There are different styles of dressing in each country and if you dress differently than the others, they just see you differently. I was feeling kind of overdressed when I was in Latvia and underdressed when I was in London.”

Being out of place, does not have to install feelings of low confidence, though. There is nothing bad in being different; unfortunately, this is a virtue many have lost on the way of keeping up with the trends.

Obsession with fashion can turn into an unhealthy addiction. The best way to fight against that is to find a personal style that makes you feel good about yourself. It is not the clothes that matter – it is how you wear them!

“You have to establish your own style and your own fashion, and not be a slave of what other people wear or what other people believe is fashionable and cool.”

No need for extremes!

No need for extremes!

Fashion is a form of art that is supposed to bring the best out of us, not to breed low self-esteem and depression. Every day we are exposed to thousands of advertisements and images telling us how we should look or behave. However, we should not interpret these messages to the letter. Instead, we have to find what works best for us, what helps us define ourselves and puts an emphasis on our uniqueness. So close that magazine, stop comparing yourself to those impossibly skinny models, and accept the fact that size 00 is unhealthy, and frankly ugly!

To hear some more of Boryana’s thoughts on how fashion affects us, tune in below!

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10 Responses to “When Vanity Fair Turns into a Reality Show”

  1. pauljmc220 February 7, 2013 at 1:26 pm #

    Very nice color combos and great pictures, plus the stories are fun to read.

  2. chrisli89 February 7, 2013 at 1:26 pm #

    Nice job editing the soundbar. I like the thoughts of Boryana on fashion. Good writing.

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  4. Yetta Achenbach February 17, 2013 at 7:27 pm #

    Passed by your post and decided to share it on my blog so my followers can see it too. I used the same title, “When Vanity Fair Turns into a Reality Show | A Matter of Fashion”

  5. amalijabruvere February 20, 2013 at 9:30 am #

    I think that your beliefs about fashion make your blog unique. Only a few people would actually admit that fashion should be your own about feeling good in skin. Bravissima. :))
    p.s. It’s funny how visitors feel in Latvia, my country!

    • mireladineva February 20, 2013 at 1:53 pm #

      Thank you, Amalija! And, from what I heard, Latvia is a great place to visit! We also wonder how do you guys feel in Bulgaria 🙂

      • amalijabruvere February 20, 2013 at 5:07 pm #

        Ha ha, I know! Not to worry, we’re doing great so far.

  6. Melody February 24, 2013 at 6:30 pm #

    Love this: “Fashion is a form of art.” True!!


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